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Stress-Management Through Becoming Aware of Your Gut Instincts

Would you like to understand your inner gut instincts so you can begin a stress-management program in your life, but don't know where to begin? You do not need to feel alone in your confusion because the psychology of gut intelligence is a new field of study and research and many people are still baffled as to how to even begin to understand our second brain in our bellies. Recently, a research study in depth psychology reports that listening to the voice of your gut can lead you to have a more beneficial life experience with stress reduction and more decisive choices that benefit both the culture and you as an individual person. Understanding the twelve keys presented in this article will help you successfully navigate through your awareness of your own gut intelligence and begin to use it as an inner guide to accompany your thinking brain decisions and help you in stress-management. These keys reflect the responses of hundreds of people in clinical settings.

First: The gut is the instinctual feeling response center and we each feel either empty or full or somewhere in the middle from a moment-to-moment bases. You can understand this if you just imagine a gas gauge in your gut at all times and it is registering your needs met or not met.

Second: We feel full in our guts when our instinctual needs are met and empty when they are not. We are talking about psychological instinctual needs, psychological not in the use of logic but in our needs as human beings. We are talking not just about food intake, although the feeling of emptiness and fullness in relation to food intake and psychological instinctual needs are interestingly similar and we all do get them confused and thus may over eat to try to fill the emptiness we feel psychologically.

Third: We have two instinctual needs that the gut gauges, which are the need to feel accepted and the need to be in control of our own responses to life. These two needs must be constantly in balance to feel full of life energy.

Fourth: When we have both of these instinctive needs met, we feel full and thus energized; and when we have neither met or one is out of balance with the other, we feel empty and often experience some symptoms of stress in the body like feeling lethargic, anxious, overwhelmed, disconnected and alone.

Fifth: The gut response does not depend on the thinking brain as the gut is an independent brain of its own, as recent medical breakthroughs have demonstrated. But of course the gut brain can be greatly affected by the thinking brain, and vice-versa.

Sixth: We all naturally work both consciously and unconsciously to keep these two instinctual needs in balance at all times.

Seventh: Becoming more conscious of these two instinctual feelings and our needs as human beings will increase our ability to feel empowered and self-aware, as well as help us to experience stress reduction in our lives. We need to have a balanced and conscious dialog between our gut responses and head response so we can use our thinking brain to make the appropriate responses in the external world and try to fill these two important instinctual needs in appropriate, healthy and successful ways.

Eighth: When we are unconscious of our gut responses, our thinking brain will often use a system of thought it has picked up, perhaps from an authority like a parent, teacher or even a religious interpretation, and our thinking brain applies it as a judgment about the feeling in our gut. This is what happens when we have an emotion like guilt or depression. We feel empty because our needs are not met and our thinking brain attaches a thought to the emptiness, a thought that we may have borrowed from an outside source years ago. We then experience a lack of fulfillment as we apply this thinking like "It is all my fault for being too stupid or too small or too incompetent, etc." or "I am not capable of doing anything to make this work or be better" or "I am not worthy or deserving", thus we have guilt and or depression feelings and we experience a great amount of stress in our bodies.

Ninth: Once our thinking brain attaches a judgment to our gut feeling, we experience a combination of feeling and thinking as an emotional response. The emotional feelings are not pure feelings of emptiness or fullness anymore, as they now have the thinking component mixed in them. And these thinking-feelings or emotions are mostly felt in other parts of our bodies above our bellies, between our head brain and gut brain. If you look into your emotional feelings, you can always find a thinking element to them. And if you trace the feeling aspect only, it goes directly and purely to the gut. The gut is the source of all feeling and on a purely gut feeling level there is no thinking but just the feeling of emptiness and fullness, although you may certainly use different words to describe this binary feeling response.

Tenth: People have found in clinical settings that the only way we can unravel this tightly woven thread of inaccurate thinking judgment about ourselves and the resulting emotional stress, is to reflect back to the source of when the thinking head first applied this very same judgment causing a negative feeling emotion. Through gut feeling reflection we can find the actual source experience or as close to it as possible. And the key to finding this first experience is through reflection on both the negative feeling emotion and the gut feeling of emptiness and fullness, not through thinking back on the details of our lives.

Eleventh: Once we find this original experience, generally in childhood, in which we started the "tape" that plays over and over in our heads saying we are at fault, powerless, too needy, unloveable, etc., then we can see ourselves more realistically in the light of our adult minds and lift the sentence we have placed on ourselves and our feelings. We may then begin to see ourselves clearer and make healthy decision, and begin to use our thinking head to follow our instinctual needs and fulfill our true human nature. This gut feeling reflection is for most people an experience that they report to greatly help in stress-management and have both positive effects upon their health and energy level.

Twelfth: Reflection on the gut feelings or what we might call our gut voice helps us to be more mindful of our caring nature and thus be more caring for others. And with the new awareness of our gut responses and needs that we acquire through reflection on our instinctual gut responses, we are able to live a more caring and healthy life with the thinking head finally conscious and listening more clearly to the responses of our most reliable and authentic self, our gut instinctual feelings in our body.

Early in her career as a counselor in the 70s, Martha Love, along with her colleague Robert Sterling, became aware of the need to help people with stress reduction management and decision-making based on inner needs. After years of clinical study of gut intelligence and new medical breakthroughs supporting the intelligence of the gut brain, they have collaborated on a groundbreaking book, called "What's Behind Your belly Button?", which introduces a new Gut Psychology and explores the awareness of gut instincts to make healthy life-decisions, improve individual stress reduction management, and enhance overall well-being.

For more information on the book "What's Behind Your Belly Button" go to http://careerstorefront.angelfire.com/.


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How to Thrive Through The Hectic Holiday Season

Once again the winter holiday season is upon us, and once again I'm noticing an increase in the stress levels of the people I work with. It's funny, given that Christmas is extolled as a time of great happiness and joy, with family and friends getting together and even company sponsored parties to celebrate the season.

Yet all too often what I hear at this time of year is "I just don't have enough time to do everything I have to get done. I'll never be ready in time!" and as the actual holiday itself gets closer people have a tendency to become more irritable and their tempers seem to develop a very short fuse - you may even have heard of a growing number of incidences of "parking lot rage".

However in spite of everything going on around you, you can lower your stress level considerably if you take time to figure out where it's coming from and recognize that there are things you can do to reduce it considerably. This is because all too often you are yourself causing the majority of your stress.

Christmas, and in fact the majority of holidays, most often come with a slew of assumptions, expectations and beliefs as to "how it should be", yet we are largely unaware of them and how they can add unnecessary stress to our lives.

Consider the 'assumptions' which many of us make daily without giving any thought as to where they come from or the basis behind them. For example we may have a tendency to 'assume' that others will want to do things the same way we do and will, therefore, naturally see the necessity of holding the family get-together on Christmas Day itself. While this might have worked when there was only a small 'nuclear' family and the children didn't drive or have spouses, as a family grows and expands additional people are added to the equation, complete with their own extended family, established patterns and underlying assumptions. While in the past it might have been relatively easy to get a core family group of two parents and two young children together with one sibling and his small family, with some of the grandparents maybe even there, just imagine the impact of additional family members as children grow up, get married and deal with the family traditions of their spouse.

The assumptions we hold are further complicated by our 'expectations'. It seems that people create a picture of what their 'ideal Christmas' should be and then they become stressed as the reality starts to deviate from what they expected! As an example a basic expectation of my Mother's is that everybody in our extended family will get together on or near Christmas Day so we can all celebrate as a family. It was easy when I and my brother were children, but now we are grown with families of our own and our children have jobs, have moved away, and in some cases married, so trying to schedule one day within a short period of time when everybody can get together is akin to trying to schedule all the trains passing through Grand Central Station to be on time - during a snow storm! Yet every year my Mother gets worked up and becomes extremely stressed because we can't find a day that suits everybody. And as wonderful as it would be if it happened, basing an expectation on a reality that no longer exists is a sure-fire recipe for frustration and increased stress!

And then there are the 'beliefs' we all hold, both consciously and unconsciously. If you were raised in a loving family where everybody got together on holidays, you could hold the belief that 'if family members really care about each other they will get together each holiday no matter what', with the corollary belief that 'if family members don't come to the family gathering it means they don't care about our family anymore'. Unfortunately beliefs like these can be deeply rooted in our upbringing and may never have been consciously expressed, so we may not even realize why we get so irritated with someone in the family when they are unable to be at the family celebration. All we know is that they aren't coming and our stress level rises because 'Christmas just won't be the same without them'.

So if you want to avoid unnecessary stress this holiday season, and in fact enhance your ability to THRIVE in spite of the chaos and craziness around you, whenever you feel your stress level rising step back and ask yourself these 3 questions:

1) Am I reacting the way I am because I have assumed that things are going to happen a certain way?

If the answer is 'yes', and it usually is, look at your assumption and determine if it is valid under the current circumstances, or if it's maybe a little unreasonable. If, as in many cases, it is unreasonable in the given circumstances (you won't always be able to easily get the exact style and colour blouse you know your sister wants - and expects) than accept that fact and come up with an alternative solution.

2) Am I upset because I 'expected' a certain outcome and it isn't happening that way?

If the answer is yes (and again, it usually is), examine your expectations to see how reasonable they really are in light of current realities for you, your friends, other family members or anyone else involved. If your expectations are unreasonable or not suitable given people's situations, define a new set of expectations. Or better yet, enjoy each moment with friends and family as it unfolds and don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself by 'expecting' one 'ideal' outcome.

3) Am I feeling stressed out because I'm making assumptions and expecting certain outcomes because deep down I 'believe' that's the way it should be?

Again, if the answer is 'yes', examine your beliefs to see if they are valid in the present circumstances. If you find that the belief doesn't take into account the present reality (your brother's son works shifts and his lack of attendance at a family celebration in no is an indicator of his feelings towards you and the rest of the family), then discard the old belief and define a new one based on what fits the current realities.

While some causes of stress are outside of your ability to alter (there's little you can do about a major blizzard on the day you were planning on driving 400 miles!), there are many stressors that you can have a significant impact on. So if you feel the holiday chaos beginning to raise your stress level, step back a moment, take a deep breath and ask yourself the three questions listed above. And if you find that your assumptions, expectations and/or beliefs are at the root of your rising stress levels, stop beating yourself up and take a more realistic approach.

If you take the time to pro-actively manage your thoughts and approach to preparing for and celebrating this, or any, holiday season, not only will you 'stress less', you may actually find yourself enjoying the holiday season and thriving!

Karen Switzer-Howse, B.Sc., is an environmental biologist by training and a synergist by nature. She has worked at the interface between environmental protection and land use, between logical solutions and emotional responses, for over 25 years in the profit, not for profit and government research environments. She now devotes her time to helping science based professionals and technical experts working in multi-disciplinary environments create personal and professional synergy so they can improve their "workplace ecology", making their points and building success with confidence and ease with anyone, anywhere, anytime. To learn more about how to enhance your interpersonal skills to achieve success with synergy, please visit http://www.karenswitzer-howse.com/


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