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Managing Stress: How To Be Less Worried

It starts off as a thought in the back of your mind that tugs at you. Like many people you discard it and continue on. Then through a series of events the thought comes closer to the surface more often but now, it's accompanied by this feeling of dread. It gets worse and worse. Sound familiar? Worry is one of the most pervasive emotions and at its core it's based on fear and hypothesis. If left unchecked, it can and will:
Alter your brain - When you're in a state of worry, your mind takes what I like to call an escape route. It's a defense mechanism that the mind uses which is just as much of a chemical reaction as a psychological one. In a constant state of worry, your body produces increased amounts of cortisol. Prolonged exposure to cortisol impairs your ability to retrieve memories of already stored information. Basically, your brain becomes less able to remember and learn.
Cause You Ignore Possible Solutions - In this altered state, it is easy for the brain to ignore helpful cues. It is not unusual for the solution to present itself only to be completely discarded. Friends and family may offer you legitimate solutions but in your foggy mind, those solutions won't work.
Weaken your body - Because of the increased cortisol, gastric acid production may increase possibly leading to stomach ulcers. Another harmful effect is that it causes insulin resistance which means increased blood sugar. Blood pressure, potassium levels, calcium levels are all negatively affected leaving your body vulnerable and weak.
Deplete your energy - Being in constant state of worry can be exhausting. Your mind is racing through all sorts of scenarios and you are working to find what you perceive as a solution but nothing is working. It is not unusual to feel the most common symptoms of depression at this time. This along with the weakened state of your body can result in increased tiredness.

What starts as mild can quickly spiral out of control and the next thing you know, you're in the throes of depression. So when we feel the beginnings of worry tugging at us, what can we do to stem the tide?

Here is a quick exercise you can use to help you get a handle on your worry at the beginning stages:

Close your eyes and visualize a crystal clear river running freely. You follow the river and see a dam made of pieces of wood that preventing that river from moving freely. That dam is your worry. You walk over to that dam and pull out the pieces of wood one by one. You keep pulling those pieces of wood until the dam weakens and the river overruns the remaining pieces. The river runs freely.

Do this as many times as you need to for any other dam that that gets in your way. You don't have to pull out each piece of wood; you can throw stones at it, take a longer piece of wood and beat it down, whatever you feel comfortable in doing so that you can get rid of that dam. The point of this exercise is not to get rid of all your worries all at once; it's to help you realize that worries can be weakened and dismantled to the point where they no longer obstructions. Once they are removed, then you become more open to solutions and possibilities.

As with anything, doing this exercise takes practice but after a while you will realize how much power you have over your worries and not the other way around.

Dianne Dixon is a certified professional who left the US to return to her homeland of Jamaica, WI. She is an Agribusiness owner/Entrepreneur and blogger who contributes to a variety of sites on topics such as health & wellness, personal development, life in Jamaica and more. In Jan 2012 she published her first e-book, Jamaican Foods Min-E-Book. Follow & comment on her journey in creating a life of abundance at Transitionyte.com.


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Managing Stress When In The Comfort Zone of Dis-Comfort

The choices we make, whether it's food, how many activities we involve ourselves in, how much "stress" and responsibilities we take on, etc., are more subconscious that you may realize. People tend to seek out what is considered "familiar" and therefore reflect the choices we make across all areas of our life. When we are confronted with choices, we default to the familiar, "known" territory.

For instance, say you are shopping at a local store and you grab a laundry detergent, favorite can of beans for the chili, and some salad dressing. Your choices require very little thought process; you grab what you have already decided that you prefer, and they become a familiar, comfortable brand. With some brands you may even have several choices narrowed down to 1-3 favorites. Either way, choosing one off the shelf usually requires very little brain activity so long as you are not considering changing brands. For most of us, there is more thought process in trying to remember to bring our grocery list to the store, or remembering what was written on the list that you forgot to bring with you, than deciding which brand you want to choose.

As I mentioned earlier, this idea of a person defaulting to what is familiar affects all areas of our life. Let's take for example the situation of a woman who continues to choose abusive partners in a relationship after relationship. "Why does she continue to do this to herself?" friends wonder. She knows it is not good, she is not happy, she longs for a loving relationship and a mate who treats her kindly. She may even tell you "I feel like a magnet for dirt-bags". Yet there she is right back in another abusive relationship.

One reason may go back to her own sub-conscious recognition of and choice of a "familiar" situation even though it is not "wanted" or in her best interest. Some people may use the word "comfortable" rather than "familiar". Comfortable in this situation does NOT mean happy, desirous, or that she wants or likes the abuse. Not at all! What it means is her brain recognizes abusive relationships as "familiar" or "comfortably recognizable" and that's what she then is drawn to. Like the shopper, it is the brand she recognizes and knows, and grabs a hold of.

Why does she recognize this situation if the first place? Perhaps she was raised in a home where this was seen. Or perhaps she was exposed to this type of relationship through other influential people in her life. Or maybe a pattern was established in an earlier relationship and she was not able to break out of the pattern. For whatever reason, "the bar was set" and she became familiar with the dysfunctional situation; she learned to live in it.

So each time she was single and started seeking a new relationship, sub-consciously her brain was drawn to the familiar, recognizable "comfort zone of DIS-comfort."

Comfort zone is not limited to a relationship; it spans many aspects of one's life and choices. Food choices and exercise patterns are two areas of choice that relate to overall health and ability to control stress. We "default" to what we have grown accustomed to so when times are rough and we are under more stress it becomes harder to change these patterns.

So what comfort zone of dis-comfort are you in, and what will it take to break out of this pattern and "re-set" the bar?

Try these steps:

Decide what you really want in life; what changes in your life will you need to implement to get to your goal?Commit some time to really giving this some thought. How motivated are you? How will your life be different if these changes become reality?Stay positive - everything you are and will be starts first as a thought.Make a plan - How will you get there?Determine your support network. Who can you turn to for advice, help, support?Take your first step.Have patience with yourself - take a step each day toward your goal.Time - Time - Time! With time, new choices become routine which become habit, which become the new "familiar" and you have "re-set the bar to a new level.

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Managing Stress - Stress Is A Choice

Simply put, stress occurs when a person is not able to cope with the demands placed upon them. It's an instinctive reaction to 'fight or flight'. These days we're no longer fleeing from sabre-toothed tigers or hunting woolly mammoths but the physical response is the same when we're put in a stressful situation. The hormones released and physical changes prepare our bodies to deal with the situation but those now tend to be traffic jams, deadlines, confrontation, relationships and life changes.

Stress can be both positive and negative. A certain level of stress is good - it stirs us into action and gives us a push to meet deadlines, deal with confrontations and adds spice to life. However, too much stress affects the body both physically, mentally and emotionally and causes a loss of performance and ultimately a breakdown of the body resulting in illness.

Undue stress varies greatly from one person to another. What is stressful for one person is enjoyable for someone else. People can handle different and varying levels of stress so there is no 'one-size fits all' approach when dealing with stress.

Stress can result in digestive, back and skin problems, insomnia, high-blood pressure, weight problems, heart disease, headaches, depression? the list goes on. It's one of the main reasons people are off sick from work. Even less serious symptoms like lack of concentration, low energy levels, forgetfulness, being late and frequent colds can all be signs of stress.

One in five people are stressed at work.

Almost 30 days are lost per stress related incident and over 12.8 million days are lost per year!

Stress costs UK businesses £3.7 billion a year.

The old saying of 'pull yourself together' or 'just get on with it' is not helpful any more. Know what causes you stress and then you can either reduce it or learn how to deal with it better.

Look after yourself:

eat a healthy, balanced dietavoid excessive stimulants - coffee, tea, cigarettes and alcoholtake regular exercise - include gentle exercise like Yoga or Tai Chiallow time for yourself, your family and friendstake up meditation

Adjust your workload:

work fewer hourslearn to say "no"take responsibilitystart being pro-active instead of reactivedon't 'sweat the small stuff'improve your skillswork within your own ability

Take some time this month to think about your own stress levels and what you could do to improve and reduce your stress.

Clare Evans is the author of a time management book. She is a personal and business coach and enables individuals and business owners to get more out of their day and make better use of their time.

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